23 weeks! Saying Bye-Bye to my "Pleasure Harness" & Car Accidents!

 

 

23 Weeks Baby!

 

So, I'm coming up on a major milestone in this pregnancy....viability! Thank GOD! In a few days...at 24 weeks, if something were to happen at least they would try to save my son. For that I am thankful. Keep on cookin' Baby N! I'm still feeling really good and just continuing to take it easy. The baby is more active these days and that gives me so much peace and reassurance.

 

The Accident

 

2 weeks ago a distracted drive slammed into the rear of my car, well my wife's car. I was stopped in traffic and I saw her speeding towards me. There was no place I could go so I just braced myself for the impact. Without going into too much detail, it landed me in labor & delivery at 22 weeks. I was scared. I was pissed & angry at her for being so careless. BUT...I put my feelings aside to focus on my son. That's all I cared about. It was a very scary experience but Baby Boy N and I checked out just fine. Oh, and I'm suing her azz!

 

 

(Disclaimer - This may be the most personal/raw entry to date so you've been warned lol}

 

My Pleasure Harness   ;-(

 

Well folks, I've reached that point. That point where I have to share things in my blog that I would probably only share with my Ace's. I have to be true to this blog & that means sharing experiences from the perspective of the not-so-femme pregnant lesbian.

 

My harness. The pleasure stick. My Manzzzzz! The shyt don't fit anymore! *insert dramatic sigh* #BLOWN! I tried to strap up the other night and when I went to put it on.... my stomach and waist said, "Helllllllll no!" #BLOWN...again.

I mean, I knew it would happen eventually but I guess you are just never prepared for your joint NOT to fit. Come on mannn....It just fit like a week ago!!! So there I was unable to strap up...which means I had nothing to attach my clit suction device to...which means I had to go at it old school = the good ole manual dildo penetration = hella arm work!

Fcuk.

 

BUT......the bright side to all this is.....because I'm so genius and fortunately pretty damn good with the manual stroke {lol}... we had probably one of the BEST sexual episodes since I've been preggers. It was one of those, light a candle, sip a little wine {yes I had a few sips and yes it's okay}, turn on some ebony p-o-r-n, turn on that mood music and crash afterwards episode! Yes, it was that good.

So...to all my not-so-femme lesbians thinking about carrying or those in the process of ttc...all hope is not lost. It will take more work but it's worth it! Damn is it worth it. You just gotta tap into your ole-school manual stroke skills. Ha!

 

With that, I've packed my harness away and said good-bye....for now at least. But I'm kinda turned on by the "new stuff" we tapped into that night so who knows, that may become part of our episodes even after I have the baby. lol

 

I have my 24 week check-up next Thursday so I'm sure the dreaded glucose test is in my near future. My next goal is 28 weeks! Come onnn 3rd Trimester!!

 

That's all for now.......thanks for following my small piece of Blogworld.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Update: Anatomy Scan - Spine Views. I've reached 22 weeks!!!!!

Our Little "Thinker!"

 

 

--Hand under chin thinking about how super it's gonna be to have two mommies! ;-)

 

On Friday Feb. 7th, 2014 my wife & I went in for the much anticipated anatomy scan. I was hella nervous. I mean, THIS is the biggie. The scan where things not caught on earlier prenatal imaging & genetic testing can be detected. Before heading into the imaging center we just said a little prayer for our son. That's really all you can do.

 

Baby Boy "N" was rolled up into a complete ball! BUT with his legs crossed. At a certain point the tech told me to get up and move around in hopes to get him to stretch out a bit. Needless to say I did jumping-jacks, fake yoga etc in an attempt to get him to cooperate. Nadda! I'm so glad we weren't banking on the anatomy scan to find out the sex because we would have been disappointed. lol She did see "the money shot" at some point but it was for a quick few seconds. lol I was more concerned with his health. I prayed everything would be okay with him in terms of his organs, heart & overall health. That's all I really cared about forreal.

 

With the exception of his complete spine shots she did manage to get all the pictures & measurements she needed {Thank God}. So, we had to go back on Tuesday 02-27 for follow-up scans of his spine. Due to his position the first time the tech was unable to get all the structures of the spine she needed. The tech we had Tuesday seemed more seasoned and she was thorough! The follow-up appointment took longer than I expected. I consumed a bag of skittles and some sweet tea and praaaayed this little boy would cooperate! Laying sooo flat, WITH a full bladder, WITH aching HIPS, WITH her probing was painful! But...in the end she did manage to get every image she needed and afterwards congratulated us on our baby. Whewww! Thank God...again! It was wonderful to get another look at Sprouty! I could actually feel his kicks this time as she was scanning...it was kinda cool. He is measuring TWO WEEKS AHEAD! Yikes! I had the first scan full anatomy scan done at 19 weeks 1 day and he was measuring at 21 weeks! She didn't do dating measurments this time..she only focused on his spine, my fluid levels and my cervical length.

 

 

Here are some other cool pics of our little Sir:

 

 

FEET! lol

Halloween Frontal View! Boooooooo

Super Serious...Leave me alone Profile. lol

 

While my belly isn't that big yet....{At least I don't think so...lol} I feel so blessed to have made it to 22 weeks. I mean 22 weeks!!!!!!!!!!!!!! God is so GREAT! I do have to mention that I feel like I'm starting to slow down a bit. I take a little longer to do things I used to fly thru. It's an adjustment. My wife always tells me how great I'm doing...to be 6 months. -sidebar- The 6 months thingy depends on what calculation you use. lol Somedays I do feel like I'm doing well...other days I just take a deep sigh and say, "Lord give me STRENGTH!" lol We went thru all of Baby C's clothes and picked out all the gender neutral items for Sprouty. We have a nice little stash of sleepers, onesies, socks, bibs & equipment. My wife has also made a few cloth diapers for him too. YAY! We plan on doing our Babyshower registry in about 2 weeks. I want to wait until I'm 24 weeks to do that.

 

Update: My wife felt Baby N kick for the first time the morning I turned 21 weeks. It was so awesome for her to finally get to experience him from the outside. I think it becomes more real to everyone once you start feeling those kicks. I feel him all the time now and it does ease my mind. Some of his kicks are really low. Ouch! I don't think he likes when I prop up on my back or lay on my back...he kicks like crazy until I change positions. lol I just pray over my belly and tell him to stay PUT at least until the end of June.

 

That's all for now. I hope everyone is doing well & I'm still praying for those BFP's!

 

Meditation

 

God knows the end...just focus on being healthy.

Don't let worry steal your joy. Instead, Pray.

Don't get so caught up in the end result that you lose sight of the daily journey.

17 weeks 0 days! Bump Shot. Baby PLEASE Move!

 

17 weeks today! Yiippeeeee! While some days time seems to be speeding by...other days, not so much. I'm doing well and just taking it one day at a time. My new craving is A-1 steak sauce! I wanna smother everything in it! Yummaaay!

I went in for my 16 week check-up last week. It went well but hearing Sprouty's heartbeat is all I really care about during those quick monthly appointments. It seems SO long between appointments and I just need to know that he/she is alright in there! Which leads me to movement.

 

I WANNA feel the baby move!!!! It's driving me crazy. My wife felt Baby C around the 14-15 week mark. I read of others feeling movement that soon as well...but here I am SEVENTEEN weeks and nadda! Zilch. Well, at 13 weeks 4 days I thought I might have felt the baby but I'm not sure. I guess it's like the old sayings go, "A watched pot never boils" & "A watched phone never rings." lol

 

Oh, funny story: So, I go in for my appointment last week and my OB walks in the room all chipper and happy. She asks me if I have any questions but before I can answer she says, "Oh and you need to schedule your anatomy scan within the next two weeks." My reply to her was: "yeah I'm going to BUT I don't want to know the sex of the baby yet!" With a shocked look on her face she shouts, "OH NO, WELL WHY DO I KNOW??! I don't want to know if you don't! Let me scratch this off of your chart! I'm so glad I didn't come in here blabbing the results!!"

I then {{{GASP}}} lol

 

So apparently the genetics center sent her the results of my Maternit21 test and that included the gender portion. She documented the sex of the baby in the sleeve of my chart. lol I'm SOOO thankful she didn't tell me. While I'm dying to know...I would have been devastated and crushed to find out like that, before our big reveal party.

 

We have an appointment for the anatomy scan on 02-07 and we also have an appointment for a quick gender ultrasound on the 29th of this month. However, I'm not sure if I'm gonna keep this appointment. The only reason I even scheduled it was to "verify" the Maternit21 gender results and to make sure they match. It's probably a waste of money {$75 bucks for 10-15mins) since the MT21 is genetic but you know how it is when you just have to be sure............Did any of you do both genetics and u/s? I still have some time to cancel. But I havent.....yet. *sighs*

 

Anywhoo.....here is the 17 weeks bump shot! Almost to 20 weeks. Whoohoooooo!

 

 

 

 

Meditations:

 

Stop saying if and start saying when....

Although you don't know what's going on on your womb...GOD does!

Embrace & enjoy the journey. All of it! Not just the "good" parts.

Every woman's journey is different. Trust that this is the one specifically crafted for YOU.

15 Weeks 0 Days! Gender Reveal Party!

As of today I am 15 weeks exactly! Wow. I really cannot believe it. I'm still doing very well and just so thankful. I'm starting to look obviously pregnant and embracing every moment of it. The one thing I'm happy about as well is my face isn't "looking" pregnant. lol Vain I know but....the "pregnant nose" was something I teased folks about. lol You know the red pregnant nose....it's the look where people don't have to see anything below your neck to know you're expecting! Hahahaha....I can laugh because my wife had it. I know I'm speaking too soon but if I do get it....I will indeed laugh at myself!

 

Oh, I'm thankful for a close friend who I can run to when I'm having concerns about my expanding plumping body. She has gone thru the whole pregnancy experience as a "far from femme" mom and has helped me a great deal. My latest issue is my boxers. They are getting really uncomfortable around the lower portion of my stomach. I asked her what my next step was a she gave me a few suggestions. Even sent me a pic of some from her personal collection lol....I'm finding that there are certain aspects of me being pregnant that my wife won't understand, fully. I mean we are both women...but mentally, emotionally & physically I'm experiencing pregnancy from a different lens. So, it's nice to have an outside resource that understands first hand. Thanks T!

 

We have set the date for our big gender reveal party! {For those of you who want to get technical se.x reveal party. Yes, I know they are not the same. No, we won't be calling our party a baby se.x reveal. Yes, gender reveal just sounds better and less perverted.}

It's scheduled for Feb. 1st! I will be 18 weeks 2days!!! We've decided to do the balloon pop since we did the cake with Baby C. I'm actually starting to look forward to knowing if Sprouty is a Boy or a Girl. I guess since I'm getting bigger and I know the baby can now hear sounds.....It would just be nice to start calling him or her by their name. Oh, and maybe buying a few things. I'm also excited about sharing this moment with our family and friends. We have a strict NO GIFT policy. We just want folks to come eat & enjoy this precious time.

 

 

How Far Along? 15 weeks today! Yippee!

Total Weight Gain: I got on the scale this morning and I was up another 2lbs. It's all good tho. 

Maternity Clothes: Nope. I need to get a few more pairs of pants for work but I'm just buying the next size up.

Symptoms: Still no morning sickness. My energy is coming back!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank GOD!

Stretch Marks: No more than I already had on my stomach.

Belly Button In/Out: Nothing yet. Still in.

Sleep: Great and all the time.

Best Moment Last Week: Thinking that I might have felt Sprouty move. The jury is still out on that one.

What I Miss: Being active. Beer. 

What I’m looking forward to: Feeling Sprouty move without a doubt. Our next ultrasound. Our gender reveal party.

Food Cravings: Salads, pineapples, apple sauce and oranges! Especially oranges! Salads make the belly soooo happy.

Food Aversions: I'm still cautious about eggs but I don't really have any aversions at this point. 

Gender: Team Green……for now……can’t wait to find out! I've said this from the moment I found out I was pregnant....I think this is a BOY!

Movement: None ;-(

My Concerns or Questions: None at the moment. Just the usual "is my baby okay and how can I KEEP her/him okay" stuff.

Goals for the week: NOT stress over feeling Sprouty move. 

 

Meditation:

 

It's okay to be excited. You should be.

God knows how this will all end...trust His process.

Let worry NOT be your first reaction/response. Instead, pray.

God has heard your prayers & does grant the desires of our heart.